I remember feeling alone, angry and bitter. All I had wanted my whole life was to be a mother. But, I had no control over my own body and the ability to make this lifelong dream a reality. After a diagnosis of blocked fallopian tubes and PCOS, I was told that IVF was our best chance of becoming pregnant. Getting pregnant with IVF, this would be tough. I threw myself a pity party for a couple of days. I had no idea how we would cover the in vitro cost. Even if we were able to save enough over five years, at that point I would enter “advanced maternal age,” which would hurt chances of success.
We were fortunate enough to receive a grant from the Baby Quest Foundation, which helped eliminate this financial pressure. I have the most supportive partner, family and friends. My husband came with me to every 6AM blood draw / ultrasound. He also gave me my shots without hesitation. His positive attitude helped keep my anxiety at bay (most of time!).
It wasn’t until I started talking openly about my struggles that I found out one of my best friends had been struggling to get pregnant, too. Suddenly, we both didn’t feel as alone. Since then, I have tried to be very open about our experience. By speaking out, I felt like I had some control over the situation and was able to help and educate others.
We are thrilled to be expecting a baby boy in June of 2017 after a successful round of IVF. To those women at a low point in their journey. If you have always dreamed of being a mother, you can achieve that dream. It may not be in the way you pictured but there is a path for you to motherhood.