There is pain in watching your child grow up playing alone at home and dreaming for a sibling

When we were trying to conceive, I never imagined we would have issues. I felt super healthy, fit and I was even creating a pre-pregnancy fitness program at the time. I soon learned that you can be healthy, fit, young, old—it’s not something we can control and there is no shame.

Secondary infertility can be a ‘funny’ thing as you immerse yourself in a community where many are yet to have a child. But it breaks your heart when your child asks why they are the only one without a brother or sister. There is pain in watching your child grow up playing alone at home and dreaming for a sibling. Each journey is our own, and we must try not to compare, even though it can be trying at times.

After years of going unnoticed, I was finally diagnosed with PCOS and also underwent a procedure to unblock a fallopian tube. I went through 4 unsuccessful IUIs before moving on to IVF. I was completely shocked by the egg retrieval, and didn’t realize how much it would throw me off physically. We got 21 eggs, 19 fertilized, and 5 lasting till day 5.

It was at that time that I finally felt that my fitness and nutrition was starting to play a role in the process. It was time to get my body into balance. On our second IVF transfer, we got pregnant with twins! I am currently 26 weeks and feeling very blessed. I am thankful for my journey. Although difficult, I can share my story and help others. I’m so happy I joined a community where I could get support. Because friends and family didn’t always understand or say the ‘right’ thing. I look forward to continuing to be a part of this amazing community.