Having struggled with anorexia in my early 20s and experienced irregular periods most of my life, I always feared that I would face infertility when the time came for my husband and I to start a family. My fear of getting pregnant after an eating disorder came to a reality when we started to try for our first child. I would later come to realize that I was blessed that on my first IUI, I became pregnant and gave birth to an amazing boy.
It was when we attempted to have our second child that my husband and I really struggled. In the span of a year and a half, I went through 6 rounds of IVF, 1 round of IUI. I also had 6 separate miscarriages. At the time, we were living in Memphis, TN. We had amazing doctors but needed to try something different. After much research, we decided that I would go up to New York City and meet with Dr. Zev Rosenwaks, the Director of the Center for Reproductive Medicine at Weill Cornell. My husband stayed in Memphis with our then 3-year-old son. I stayed with some close family friends as I began my 7th round of IVF. All the heartache, tears, sleepless nights, and most of all the patience and hope finally paid off when I became pregnant and gave birth our second son.
It was very important that throughout our journey, my husband and I never gave up hope, determination to have another healthy child. Most importantly–never gave up on each other. What helped me the most in getting through the daily struggles of infertility and miscarriage was talking. I found it very therapeutic and cathartic to talk to not just my closest friends, but also many acquaintances. Many people struggle with similar issues and never talk about it. I found that being open about my own story made other people decide to share their own stories with me. Feeling the love and support from so many strong and beautiful women really helped me get through each day. It helped me look forward to a better tomorrow.