My husband and I began trying in late 2013. We weren’t totally “ready” for a baby, but I knew it could take some time and we were eager to begin this next chapter together. I tracked my ovulation every month, and got my period exactly two weeks later every month. I started to get anxiety about my ability to conceive, and then that same month, I missed my period and we found out we were expecting! We saw the baby’s heartbeat at 8 weeks. At 10 weeks, the nausea and exhaustion I welcomed with open arms completely disappeared. An ultrasound confirmed my worst fears: the baby had stopped growing, and I opted for a D&C. We later found out the baby had chromosomal abnormalities.
Months later and still not pregnant, I went to see a fertility specialist. I got pregnant after my first IUI but it ended in a chemical pregnancy. Because of my age at the time (27) and having had two miscarriages in a row, we then opted for IVF with genetic testing. The IVF process was physically fine but emotionally grueling. A few weeks after receiving the news that we had 4 genetically normal embryos, I was shocked to learn that I was already pregnant (naturally!) and gave birth to our beautiful, healthy baby boy in September 2015.
Trying for a second wasn’t as difficult mentally, but after two chemical pregnancies, we turned to our frozen embryos. After one unsuccessful natural transfer cycle, we got our positive on a medicated transfer cycle and are due in December with a baby girl.
I like to think that coming out the other side has made us extra appreciative parents. The frustration and sadness strengthened our relationship as a couple, and I feel so lucky to have my husband’s truly unconditional love and support in the toughest times. I couldn’t have gotten through it without him constantly reminding me how blessed we already were, and his confidence that we were going to be parents one day. It’s so easy to get lost in a world of anxiety and despair when all you want is a baby and the odds are stacked against you. I experienced my darkest days while trying to conceive, and my husband and I are so grateful every day to be blessed with a healthy baby. The journey is worth the most beautiful reward at the end.