While I share a lot on social media and my blog, I tend to keep the really personal stuff to myself. You would never know, looking at my posts, that I was struggling with infertility. My husband and I have been actively trying to conceive for two and a half years, and after two miscarriages, surgery, thyroid issues and a failed round of IVF, I’ve decided to share our story.
Even with the most supportive man in the world, infertility is hard, lonely and depressing, and I want women going through this to know they are not alone. I repeat…YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I also feel as a woman of color, I needed to share my story. Latino & African-American women are stereotypically seen as baby-makers. A shitty stereotype that seeps into your brain as a young girl. I always knew I was going to be a mom and never once did I think it would be this hard.
There are so many women who deal with infertility and who have had miscarriages and yet both are still rarely talked about. Well, I think they should be talked about. It’s been a challenging couple of years but it’s made me a stronger person and has brought Damien and I closer than ever. I know we’ll have a baby one day. It may happen naturally, it may happen through IVF or it may even happen five years from now through adoption. Whatever the case, we will be parents one day and all these ups and downs will make it feel all the more special.