The Path after Egg Freezing
When my sister was going through IVF, she convinced me to freeze my eggs. I was 36, living in NYC, and knew I wanted children, so I did it. A few years later, my fiancé and I moved to San Diego and got married. At 39 years old, we started trying for a baby. I knew we would have a tough road ahead; I didn’t realize how tough, especially given my “advanced maternal age”. After a miscarriage and 2 chemical pregnancies, we sought the help of a fertility doctor. We did 3 rounds of IVF and 1 embryo transfer, which did not take. I wasn’t ready to use my frozen eggs b/c they were my plan B, or a second child.
Coping with Embryo Testing
Due to my age, it was recommended that we biopsy any embryos to see if they were genetically normal. Each of my retrievals resulted in 1-2 embryos that were sent to testing, and each time they all came back abnormal. It was heartbreaking to go through the weeks of painful shots, retrievals, and tens of thousands of dollars to have zero results. We shipped my frozen eggs from NYC. They were fertilized and sent for testing, but all came back abnormal. I was told to start looking into donor eggs.
Making Lifestyle Changes
I was devastated, heartbroken, and angry. After seeing a therapist, I saw a new doctor, who is over hour an away from me and specializes in highly complicated cases. I changed my diet and exercise habits, and saw an energy healer, nutritionist, massage therapist, acupuncturist, and physical therapist.
Fibroids and IVF Transfers
I did 3 IVF cycles with him and I got 2 PGS normal embryos. Before we could transfer them, he found fibroids in my uterus. The myomectomy showed that they would not impede the transfer and an MRI confirmed it. In Feb 2018, I transferred my two embryos. This was my last chance to have my own biological children. After 7 retrievals, I was emotionally done with IVF. On my 42nd birthday, I found out that I was pregnant! And a few weeks later, we learned we are having twins—a girl and a boy! I am beyond ecstatic and can’t wait to meet them in October!